We asked our Facebook Likers to post their potty training worries and allow other parents who had experienced the same thing t0 offer solutions as part of a ‘Potty Training SOS’ series.
Here’s what you had to say…
“I have a 3 year old little boy with older siblings and has a fear of the loo I’ve tried potties that have a tune after use, clip-on urinal even a step toilet seat – he won’t go on either. All my others were easy but as he’s my last – it isn’t so easy as he’s very stubborn any advice please.”
Ann: Read lots of stories reinforcing fave characters using toilet and not nappies. Also, if hes not ready then dont force it.
Rachael: I found my son liked ‘blowing off’ in the toilet to make it echo. It helped him as I knew when he was windy he was going to have an accident. We’re now just 2 weeks clean and 4 in July. So for the last year I have struggled so much with him, and he’s my 3rd of 4.
Barbara: Our son was the same – refused point blank to go near toilet and for a while the potty, the dummy fairy visited a few months ago to take dummy and left a present, soon after that he said he has to use the big boy toilet for wee and poop, so the poo poo fairy could bring him the digger he wanted. In the end after me panicking he would not be ready for September he did it all himself and actually forgot about the digger. I think I was making it worse for him as I really wanted him to be out of nappies for our 2nd arrived, slowing down and leaving it too him worked for us.
Amy-louise: My son has just today been for a poo on the big toilet by himself, just disappeared and came down and told me, this is a massive relief as he’s been doing it in his pants for months and starts school in sept and was so worried he’d mess himself at school. I tried everything, potties, toilet steps letting him choose his own pants to buy then throwing in bin if he went in them, reward charts, sitting him on the loo reading him a book, literally everything. Then today it just happened because he was ready to do it, persevere with him – he’ll get there in his own time.
Catherine: I know some might not agree but my son was a nightmare to potty train. He also had a fear of the toilet so we used one of the IKEA toilet seats as they suction onto the toilet and do not move. We have incentives, so for example a Kinder egg if he was a big boy and used the toilet to wee, then a Hot Wheels car if he finally done a poo on it and I kept them where he could see them. Then once he had done I would say to him ‘you’re a big boy now’ and he just carried on. Only took 24 hours but it got him onto the toilet. My friend also brought this funky toilet seat from The Range that has a child’s seat on it that an adult can just lift and it’s magnetised so attached to the lid of the toilet but to a child just looks like a normal seat.
Charlotte: Food colouring in the water? Could work as a distraction instead of him focusing on his fear.
Lisa:Changing the colour of water in the toilet or using a floating object that they can pee on and aim for. Sounds so odd but this really appeals to some boys they need a reason to do it.