Whether you are excited about starting to potty train, or find the whole prospect overwhelmingly daunting, one thing is for sure, it’ll be an eye-opening process.
You might have a child that is super ready and nails it in a couple of days. You may have a child that just doesn’t want to play ball and gives you the run around. Or you might have a child that just forgets to tell you they need to go and does their business on the carpet.
Whichever it is, you need to remember that each of these experiences can be totally ‘normal’.
Believe it or not, there are a lot of myths when it comes to potty training.
The age at which you should start to potty train, the length of time it will take to get rid of the nappy, and even the ‘best’ way to do it.
The long and short of it is that whist there are typical behaviours, there is no precise ‘normal’.
Some children are ready earlier than others. Some take longer to potty train. Accidents are all part of the learning process.
So we thought we’d give you the heads up and list a few potty training truths about potty training that you might not know…
It’s no harder to potty train a boy or girl
A commonly asked question; boys vs girls. To put it bluntly, it doesn’t matter if you are training a boy or a girl. The process and results should be the same. It isn’t any more difficult to potty train boys as they should be potty trained the same way as you would a girl.
Pull up style nappies are not part of the process
We hate to break it to you, but nappies are nappies, whatever the style. A child needs to learn how it feels to not wearing a nappy so that they can understand what an accident is. Nappies are so absorbent that the child never knows what it feels like to be wet. You need to ditch them completely from the get go! For protection, try out our potty training pads in a pair of big girl / boy pants.
Your nursery is not responsible for potty training
Your nursery will be happy to follow the routine that you have put in place at home but it is not their responsibility to decide when and how to potty train your child. You can reach out to them for advice as they will have had years of helping children to use the toilet, but don’t rely on them to do the job for you. Remain consistent throughout; however they approach the process at nursery, continue to do the same at home.
You don’t need to reward every wee
Yes, potty training reward charts and stickers can be a useful tool to get your child to go (or even try) on the toilet or potty, but they are not the only motivation you can use. Explain to your child that you are really proud of them, that they are a big boy/girl, and use intangible ‘rewards’ such as praise and high-fives. They need to learn that using a toilet is part of our every day life and they won’t always get a prize for using it on an ongoing basis.
Regression is common
Don’t assume that because they are dry (day or night) that they won’t still have accidents. Potty training regression is very common, especially when there have been big changes e.g. starting a new nursery or school, a separation, moving house, or new baby. Keep reenforcing the process and asking your child before car journeys, after lots of drinks, before bed time etc.
Potty training does not happen by magic
Whichever methodology you choose only very rarely to children potty train themselves. It’s a learned skill like cleaning your teeth! So there is no easy way out or super magical solution. Our potty training pads can help accelerate that process as they will help you child to feel uncomfortable and quickly see the benefits of potty training. As a rough guide, around the age of two years old is when traditionally children would start to express discomfort in wearing a nappy. As nappies are so dry and effective these days, (even the pull on style ones as mentioned above), Mum or Dad needs to actively intervene. Do not expect your child to come up to one morning and say ‘’Hey Mum, the sun’s out and today is THE day for big boy pants!’’… Not going to happen!
Guess what, adults don’t get to go poo in the living room!
Potty training is not just about getting the ‘pee in the potty’ – it’s a whole behaviour change. No more will Mum or Dad rescue a soggy nappy with a quick behind the sofa nappy change… Potty training requires effort from your child – they have to think in advance, predict and time that they will need the toilet at a point in the near future. Worst of all, they have to stop what they are doing to go! Life sucks, eh? It’s no wonder that some toddlers will try their hardest not to be trained. They are the smart ones! They want their parents to do it. Start by changing the whole routine to the bathroom or toilet, and remember our potty training pads are worn in a child’s own pants, which is a great way to signal that they are no longer a toddler with a nappy to be changed at a whim.
What other potty training truths would you add?